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All personal growth requires humility. Without humility, pride takes the wheel and aims for the ditch. History is littered with the pages of brilliant and talented men and women who were ultimately destroyed by their own pride.

Humility reveals our humanity. Let that idea really take hold in your mind. Humility reveals your humanity by keeping your failures and your successes in proper perspective to each other. Humility makes you teachable, a constant reminder of how much you need lifelong learning.

Abraham Lincoln, an avid reader and voracious learner, understood the importance of humility. When some editors were preparing a directory of congressmen, they asked Lincoln to submit his biography. He humbly wrote, “Education defective.” He was keenly aware that even though he had closed many of his personal growth gaps, humility was still the key to all future learning.

When we lack humility, our pride builds our knowledge into monuments of our own greatness. Although we can’t see it at the time, those monuments are actually barriers and roadblocks to our future learning. Humility, on the other hand, is like the gatekeeper to growth—and its gates are always open. If we begin to value what we’ve already learned over what we have yet to learn, those gates slam shut, sealed tight with the padlock of pride. Your current knowledge cannot be the permanent watermark for your future. Past learning does not guarantee future growth.

In the Beatitudes, Jesus was crystal clear about the importance of humility. Matthew 5 begins, “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”(Matthew 5:3) Professor and author Bruce Winston (2002) observes:

“‘Poor in spirit’ is a state of being opposite of ‘rich in pride.’”

Winston says that we should not view ourselves as a full cup—something that cannot receive more—but rather as an empty cup, always willing to learn more from others. Humility reminds us just how empty our cup really is. Humility helps us remember that what filled our cup yesterday won’t continue to fill our cup today.

Humility calls us to increasingly depend on God, acknowledging that His infinite wisdom far surpasses our finite minds. Proverbs 1:7 captures it best:

“Start with God—the first step in learning is bowing down to God; only fools thumb their noses at such wisdom and learning” (MSG).

Bowing implies submission, respect, honor, reverence, and humility. Without this lifelong learning posture of the heart, we’ll enthrone our knowledge as an idol and turn God into our footstool. Humble yourself! Doing so will give you the attitude you need to grow for a lifetime and ultimately close your growth gaps. Is your posture bent toward humility? Or are you drowning in the glory of your own press release?

What’s the easiest way to cultivate humility? It’s simple: shut up! Seriously. We all like to talk about ourselves. The problem is, so does the person we’re talking to. When you put a verbal zip tie on your mouth, it might surprise you how much more people will enjoy hanging out with you.

Question: How does humility shape your personal growth journey?

This post was adapted from my book, GO! Starting a Personal Growth Revolution. You can order a copy in my store here or on Amazon or KindleGO! is also available from Barnes & Noble. For bulk orders, email me here.

 

Author and leadership consultant Dr. Sam Chand observes in his book, Cracking Your Church’s Culture Code:

“People have an almost limitless capacity for self-deception. We don’t know what we don’t know and are therefore unconsciously incompetent. If we were aware of our deficits, we’d ask questions and find solutions, but because we’re not aware, we stay stuck in the status quo until something shakes us awake” (p. 41).

There’s an element of not knowing what we don’t know that sounds crippling, almost even hopeless. If you don’t know that you don’t know something, where do you even start? There’s obviously not a fool-proof answer to this question. In fact, the answer to your “how do I know what I don’t know” question isn’t what you don’t know. Confused?

There are thousands of “I don’t know what I don’t know’s” out there that I will never know. And I can’t frantically search for the answers I don’t even know that I need. Instead, the only way to deal with our unconscious incompetence is to cultivate a set of ingredients that make it easier, and more likely, to discover what I don’t know. What are those ingredients? I suggest five:

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Yesterday I was online looking at some resources to help people grow in their spiritual journey. I was reminded of a book by a gentleman who was well-versed in the Bible and who had some profoundly deep insights from Scripture. I logged onto his site, anxious to see what was available to help Christ followers mature in their faith. I clicked on an introductory video to his book…and then threw up in my mouth. I thought, “Surely this guy isn’t that arrogant,” so I clicked on one of his teaching videos where I was greeted by an ego bigger than Mount Everest. I couldn’t watch more than 60 seconds before clicking the stop button. And then it hit me: knowledge is an idol…atleast to some people it is. And the rate of their growing knowledge is matched by the rate of their growing ego.

Yesterday morning, hours before watching these videos, I read Proverbs 1:7: “Start with God–the first step in learning is bowing down to God; only fools thumb their noses at such wisdom and learning.” I don’t think it was an accident that I read this verse and watched these videos on the same day. What I saw and what I read were starkly different. So this morning I jotted down a few thoughts in my journal; subtle reminders that before I grow up I must first bow down…that as my learning increases so must humility.

Bowing implies submission, respect, honor, reverence, humility, and teachability. This is the heart posture we must take in order to be lifelong learners. Otherwise we will enthrone our knowledge and make God our footstool…what Proverbs calls, “thumbing their noses.” May God, not your current pool of knowledge, be the God of your learning.

Question: What place does God have in your personal growth?

 

Kirk Hanson, professor and executive director of the Markkula Center for Applied Ethics, shares some great insight on the leader’s achilles’ heel. He says it is found when leaders:

  • Believe they know it all
  • Believe they are in charge
  • Believe the rules don’t apply to them
  • Believe they will never fail
  • Believe they did it all by themselves
  • Believe they are better than the “little people”
  • Believe they are the organization
  • Believe they can focus everything on the job

In essence, pride is the achilles’ heel of leaders. Or as Jim Collins says, “hubris born of success.” So what would happen if we embraced a reversed-version of Hanson’s observations? What if we:

  • Readily admit that we don’t know it all
  • Realized that the people we lead come first
  • Applied the rules to ourselves before others
  • Understood that pride goes before a fall
  • Gave credit to the people who did all the work
  • Flipped the pyramid upside down and became the chief servant
  • Viewed ourselves as only one small piece in a very big puzzle
  • Had a life outside of work

This provides a much better perspective on humility and leadership. I think the Apostle Paul captured it quite well  when he instructed us to follow Jesus’ pattern of humility with these words:

“Think of yourselves the way Christ Jesus thought of himself. He had equal status with God but didn’t think so much of himself that he had to cling to the advantages of that status no matter what. Not at all. When the time came, he set aside the privileges of deity and took on the status of a slave, became human! Having become human, he stayed human. It was an incredible humbling process. He didn’t claim special privileges. Instead, he lived a selfless, obedient life and then died a selfless, obedient death–and the worst kind of death at that–a crucifixion. (Philippians 2:5-8, The Message)

Isn’t it interesting that Jesus became human and yet we try to act like God. Something’s wrong with that picture. Jesus called us to status-busting leadership.

Question:  What roles does humility play in your life?  In your leadership?